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As a new mother, I would sit and nurse my daughter with one hand and check Facebook and Pinterest with my other hand. I was often searching for something to make me feel like a better mother (e.g., how to make my child sleep more, babies 1st Christmas outfits, etc.). Through a random Pinterest search, I one day came across a quote about not letting Satan steal the joy of being a mother. I cannot find the post now, but the message has stuck with me, almost 2 years later.
So often in our lives, we begin to doubt ourselves and let that doubt turn in to feelings of inadequacy and inferiority. Depending upon where we are in our lives, the feelings can get worse and have very negative effects.
For me, the message resonated because that is exactly what I was doing. Every time my daughter cried inconsolably (which was a lot because she had acid reflux), did not sleep, or screamed through Target, I felt embarrassed and ashamed. Too often I forgot about the amazing blessing my daughter was and how lucky I was God had given her to me. It made me feel like a bad mom.
That is what Satan does. He steals our joy and makes us feel unworthy because, in those times, we are less likely to count our blessings or thank God for His gifts when we do not feel like we are enough. We forget how much God loves us. Satan does not just steal our joy in parenting, but I feel his negative influence:
Satan does not just steal our joy in parenting, but I feel his negative influence when:
- I am negative toward a grad school class when I should instead be grateful that God has given me the opportunity to attend grad school,
- I complain about the dishes and the laundry when I should thank God I have food and clothes to take care of my family,
- I attempt to learn something new and it does not go well, so I feel embarrassed or give up when I instead should honor God in attempting to do my best in all I do.
The list could go on, but the message is the same. I am blessed daily by the people in my life, the opportunities that come my way, and the amazing love God shows me when I have done nothing to deserve it. I am far from perfect and I will, unfortunately, let Satan win again but from now on, I am going to focus more on the joy in my life and the amazing blessings God has given me. I will not give Satan the satisfaction of turning my eyes from God or stealing my joy.
Note: For me, changing my attitude and mindset toward the joy in my life has been made possible through a daily time of devotion every morning and an accountability partner. My husband is amazing and we work together to help each other find joy. This has not always been easy, but wanting to be good examples for our daughter has been great motivation.
If you do not have a daily devotion time or an accountability partner, I highly recommend it. You will be amazed at the difference in your life.